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"Men like Tim Paine reveal how little they know - or care - about what women think
Kerri Sackville
Columnist
November 21, 2021 — 4.30pm
I was first exposed to the human male’s pride in his genitalia when I was just a teen. I was babysitting a two-year-old boy, and turned around to find him stark naked, his nappy discarded on the floor. “Look!” he said proudly, holding his tiny, erect penis. “Big penee!”
“Yes, Ben,” I agreed, validating his manhood, as we women have done for generations. “Big penee!”
I was reminded of Ben this week, when I read about disgraced cricket captain Tim Paine, who sent a photo of his own big penee to a female colleague. Just another male, I thought, eager to show off his D to a woman, hoping he’ll get some praise in return.
Former Test captain Tim Paine sent a female colleague an unsolicited photo of his penis.
Former Test captain Tim Paine sent a female colleague an unsolicited photo of his penis.Credit:Nine News
Unsolicited dick pics are one of the many unanticipated and unpleasant consequences of the digital age. Back when I was a babysitter, the only way a man could show a non-consenting woman his junk was to pull down his pants and whip it out. This was called “flashing” and was rightly considered a sex crime. You couldn’t show a woman a photo of your little guy unless you took a pic with your analogue camera, paid for it to be developed at the lab, picked it up from the horrified sales assistant, and showed it to your female friends.
These days, every man with a phone can snap a pic of his doodle, and share it with the click of a button. And let me tell you: a lot of men do. I am in my fifties, and over the past decade I have received countless unsolicited photos of men’s schlongs, and if it is happening to me, one can only imagine what the younger women are experiencing. As a woman in the media, I receive dick pics from men sliding into my DMs on Instagram, on Twitter, on Facebook, even on LinkedIn.
They don’t ask. They just show. It’s like a child showing off his Tonka Truck. Look at how big it is! they say. Want to play?
In my lamentably extensive experience, there are two reasons why men send dick pics. First, many straight men harbour a fundamental misunderstanding about the female sexual response. Because men can get aroused by a photo of a random vajayjay, they assume women feel the same about a penis. It’s naive and immature and reveals how little these men know – or even care – about how women think.
For the record, very few women see a disembodied penis and think, “Wow, what a magnificent willy, I must get to know its owner.” We like a penis when it’s attached to a man we find attractive. It almost never, ever happens the other way around.
The second reason men send dick pics is less obtuse, and more malevolent. Some men weaponise their weenies, playing on women’s (constant, justified) fear of sexual violence. Showing a woman your penis without asking for consent is aggressive and intimidating and smacks of male entitlement. An unsolicited dick pic is a harbinger of sexual assault; if you can force a woman to look at your erection, you have no regard for her boundaries, her sensibilities, or her dignity as a person.
With the camera phone came the rise the unsolicited texted dick pic.
Psychologists and women ask why men send 'dick pics'
I have received dick pics from men who are trying to impress me (“Look what I can offer you!” “Er, poor photography skills?“) and I have received dick pics from men who are clearly trying to threaten me (“Tell anyone and I’ll come after ya.“) Whether naive or aggressive, these men are all like Ben: little boys who haven’t yet developed empathy or insight, who think their pee-pees are way more exciting than they really are.
Men, if we women want to see your penis, I promise we will ask. And if we don’t ask, for god’s sake, just leave it in your pants. Your big penee may fascinate you, but it really does nothing for us."